Parenthood the second time around has been a different experience forTanner Tolbert.
“Before I had [daughterEmerson “Emmy” Avery, 2], before any pregnancy in my life, I alwaysthought I wanted a boy,” said Tanner, 32. “But to be honest, my connection with my daughter, probably initially, was the most strong. I don’t know if it’s because she was a daughter or she was first … but I feel right now more connected to Emmy.”
“And I feel bad saying that becauseI’ve got a beautiful newborn son, but maybe it just takes time,” he added. “Iwilllove them equally, for different reasons, but I feel it right now more with Emmy and I don’t know why.”
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Tanner said that the “newborn stage” is “really hard” for him this time around — in particular, “the incessant crying” from his 4-week-old son that makes him “go crazy.”
Of Brooks, “He wants Mom all the time” said Tanner, noting, “I don’t have milk here to provide.”
“Do you kinda feel like he doesn’t really want you so you’re like, ‘Ah, f— it, I don’t really want you either,’ ” joked Viall, 38, to which his guest replied with a laugh, “Maybe a little bit. In nicer words than that, yes.”
In seriousness, their relationship has “changed completely” since Emmy’s arrival, he said, revealing that he wants to have sex more now while Jade, 32, “wants it less.”
“It took a dive [when she started nursing Emmy] and then pretty much right after the breastfeeding stopped, we got pregnant again with Brooks,” Tanner shared. “And nowhe’s here and we have two kids. It is tough. I feel like I’ve begged for it. And I don’t want to feel selfish — I hate asking, I hate trying, ’cause I don’t want it to be pity sex.”
That being said, he respects his wife’s priorities and they have open conversations about it, saying her focus “should be on the kids, not me.” But regardless, “I do feel on the back burner,” Tanner said.
source: people.com
